She knows that I am eager to help (probably too eager) and I fell for it. I'm not blaming her, that's what people do with doormats. They wipe their feet on them and walk away.
I think i need to make myself less available from now on. JMO.
I get confused over the doormat phenomena as well! I think that it is not only that you are eager to help her, but that you may have the "FIXER" personality like I do. You have to step back like you said & make yourself less available. Once in awhile I can see "MAYBE" being there for her, but then again if it is space that she wants; then you need to step back.
But Like Rough said, I think it easier for us to give advice on other people's situations, and then melt when it comes to ours
As far as OM goes, I am not sure you can make someone reconsider an A or not?? I think that most times those things fizzle out on their own, or at least that is my hope. All you can do is work on yourself & be the Man/Father that any woman would want to be with.
I think Denver & Starsky could chime in on this as well, since their tactics/techniques seemed to have a positive effect on both themselves & their R's in the end.
Keep your chin up Brother & reread some of your posts! Your journaling to us has some really good perception & advice in there written by non other than yourself!
