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[JustStunned]

Reading other threads got me to thinking, always a dangerous pastime for me. I know this is pure speculation, but I wonder if some of X’s spewing isn’t repressed guilt over her abandonment of the relationship.

It doesn’t matter to me if she damages her relationships with family. What matters to me is the pain they exhibit and the concern that I might be perceived as contributing to it. I don’t think I have yet; it makes me tentative in some circumstances. Not the leader I’d rather be.

[BeingMe]

I think the spewing could be part of the guilt she may be feeling .... justification of one's actions can cause odd behavior, I think. But, as you say, all speculation. I find I need to find reasons for my H's behavior, but all I come up with is ... he does what he does 'cause he just does. Frustrating!

Hey, come to Canada with those airmiles. Still some sunshine left, or winter gets ya good skiing if you're into that.

[JustStunned]

@BeingMe: Frustrating yes, my frustration stems more from protecting relationship gains than with attempting to determine why XW does what she does.

I realize it is through this that XW is interfering with my life. Perhaps more importantly her meddling is wearing thin with the children. Taking the long view this causes me to be mindful of how my actions can place my children in an uncomfortable situation with XW and contrasts the differences between how I am conducting my relationships and how XW is attempting to control her relationships. In the end she is only hurting herself.

Journaling: I had a very good weekend. My sister was visiting mom and I took a couple of days off work at the end of the week. (four day weekend) Thursday and Friday we made little shopping trips, and visited mom together. I didn’t make dinner most of the week.

Saturday morning, I sealed the flat roof on the rental SIL lives in. My sister pulled a few weeds from around the foundation while I spread fibrated tar on the roof. Afterward my sister and I discussed how awkward SIL must feel with me as a landlord. (Oh well you’ll have that). I was a little dehydrated and took a break for about an hour after , sipping water in the A/C.

Saturday evening I grilled steaks and we had an impromptu picnic at my house. We got mom out of her house for a few hours. My son and DIL brought GD, ate and visited with us.

Sunday I took my sister to the airport. Mom and I drove home lost in our own thoughts. Mom did note a few changes along the route home. I spent the rest of Sunday cleaning up around the houses. I pulled a shrub XW had planted in an inconvenient location, cleaned the awning on the RV. I managed to get cleaning solution splashed in my eye. Standard first aid, flush the eye and carry on. I looked at the eye in a mirror and my daughter looked it over when she stopped by after work. It is still a little irritated today, but otherwise unaffected.

[BeingMe]

Ouchie, JS!

Sounds like you had a very busy, but also happy weekend.