Snodderly: He is lost and spinning. I am trying to find myself, so he must be trying to find himself, too. He has always been such a loner this has to be hard on him. The only person he talks to is OW.
Kaffe: I realized I needed to just break off a big hunk of detachment and chew on it. I was still a little grumpy when I got home last night. The kids were all over to watch the True Blood season finale. By the time they left I was ready for bed and we were civil to each other.
What you said made me realize I am not doing a very good job of noticing the positive things he does. Even though the D is going through I do need to keep complimenting the positive. He was telling me how much work it was to have cleaned the grout. And all I could think was how much like a child he is, needing so much positive feedback. And then like a child myself I think about how nice it would be if anyone ever noticed all the work I do. And I think the lack of feedback from my whole family is why I get grumpy, and I don't do as much as I used to.
I think that is why I love my quilt guild ladies. Every single thing I do for them gets me nice compliments. They are sweet and love my energy and ideas. It is nice to be appreciated.
Nero: I love finding furniture to fix up and make beautiful again. When I lived in Virginia Beach I used to find amazing things. I have found a few here. I love when I find old sewing machine cabinets. I pull out the rusted hunk of a machine and have a cute little table I can paint or stain.
Every day is better than the previous one, so yes, this too shall pass!
KML: He was going to set up the alimony as an allotment. I am worried about the whole thing. That is why I called the bank again. Because 3 months of being paid alimony seems like a short time to base an approval on. Maybe because I am getting half of his military retirement, and have the survivor benefit plan, and the life insurance in an amount greater than the mortgage I'm seeking. I am going thru USAA, who knows more about my finances than they probably ought to!
These things will all work out!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
