As far as I know I won’t be giving up anytime soon. My W has become a bit more cold and even more distant recently, that’s ok though. Church was good, the preacher knows I am having some difficulties however I haven’t spoken with him about my sitch in about 6 months. I held it together at church but it was tough, it brought out a lot of my emotions. I was sitting in the back all by myself. I think he could sense I am struggling because after the service he came over to me and gave me a hug and told me to hang in there, that was very nice of him.
I get the kids tomorrow. I am supposed to get them around 5:30 however W just emailed me and asked if I could get off work 2.5 hours early because she has a doctor’s appointment. Taking the time off shouldn’t be a problem so I am leaning towards honoring her request. I also need to get D a present for her birthday and I am thinking about giving W some money so it can be from the both of us. I just feel the gifts have always been from both of us. Or I could just get something on my own now that things are different. I am planning on going to daughter’s birthday party. W said it would need to be on Friday or Sunday, she mentioned that she’s busy on Saturday. I am leaning towards Friday.
Here’s the thing, I am so torn with some of these decisions that seem so simple. I don’t know if I should be taking a tough stance approach or a loving and agreeable approach. Getting a gift on my own, getting off work a couple hours early, etc.. My W has the kids more than I do so I don’t mind complying when she asks me to take the kids early, I love seeing the kids and she’s somewhat flexible on letting me see them outside the set schedule.
I am ok offering her flexibility when it comes to the kids but when she’s asking me to get off work early because of her doctor’s appointment??? I might need to put my foot down on that one.
I feel that page 7 and 8 on my thread is very powerful because I received multiple view points by some of the vets. Mrbond and Denver alluded to a more hardline approach and Accuray suggested a bit more caring and softer approach, I see both sides. I guess I just need to make up my mind sometimes and remember that one choice or decision I make when it comes to the stuff I am talking about isn’t going to make or break things.
