Now that part I wish I knew the answer to. The only even close to an answer I have is that you simply don't do it. You make the decision to NOT do it. I wish there was another way, if there was a pill for it we'd all take it, but we know there's not, its just another step in moving forward that you have to take.
Im guessing everyone here has there own special part of their sitch they dont deal with as well...their 'waterloo' so to speak and apparently thats yours.
I'll be happy to share with you mine.....I dont/wont ask her for anything right now that is in 'our' house. Im sure this will sound crazy and irrational but its how my mind works. I've been running every day without my ipod b/c I won't ask her for it. I had to file an extension on our taxes back in April and extensions run out on October 15th and I need some tax stuff from our home office to finish them and so far I haven't asked her for them. I have plenty of clothes, but there are a few specific things i'd like to get out of my closet. The title to one of my trucks is also in the home office and I could easily sell it if I had the title and it needs to be sold. I could probably name more, but those are the specifics that i've known for a while now that I need to ask her about.
Here's the thing, I'm scared to death that if I ask her for those things she's going to tell me that while im getting them why don't I take the rest of the stuff out of my closet as well since I won't be coming back there ever and I haven't been able to face that yet. So rather than rock the boat in any way Im very happy with the status quo as far as that is concerned so I dont ask for anything that is still at our house.
