I thought it was weird that when this crisis hit he was open, friendly and sharing with me and then went MIA 24 hrs. later.
Hi KG,
I have not posted to you before but have been following your posts recently. I just wanted to say that I noticed a similar dynamic in my sitch.. we would have a really good interaction, she would share more personal stuff about herself or her family.. and then, she would either disappear or take the next step with the D.
i wondered if the positive interactions made her feel uncertain or uncomfortable and she did not like that feeling so she quickly moved in the other direction..
but i do know the pattern now so it is not as much of a surprise.
((((((((( ))))))))))
She knows that she doesn't want to be drawn into you. She is aware.
What you can do is be successful and be confident. Those are very attractive qualities. Do it for yourself. You have to accept that the wife is already gone and operate out of this framework.
They almost always want you back when you have other option(s), but normally they will just feed you crumbs. It's kinda like they know they can rely on us to be there and only need a backup while they pursue whatever life they are doing.
Decide if you want to be a backup or not. Once you get any feeling and thought of accomidating or measuring up to her you will feel a whole bunch better. She lost that right.
