MrsD: You gotta remember if he still gets all of those little things from you that a mature relationship has and gets affection/sex elsewhere he's never gonna miss your or want you back because he can't miss whats never been gone.
I dont wanna be to harsh, but if what he's doing is 'cake-eating' as they say around here, the reason he's doing it is because your catering it to him. And your texts to him keeping him informed are bad for you in a two-fold way. The first part, the woe is me you don't care part was fishing for a compliment at best, and at worse was to make him feel obligated to tell you it wasn't true...its a control thing trust me i've done it. And how badly would you have felt if he had texted you back and said your right I really don't care b/c we are divorced get that through your head? But more importantly how does that project a strong confident woman that he'd want to be with? And secondly the very fact that you share that with him, that you share how much you miss him, how much you wanna work things out etc.....its all added up to his knowing that your gonna be right there whenever he wants you.
Why would he be in any hurry to not date someone else and possibly date you if your gonna be standing there waiting no matter how many bar skanks he runs through?
Totally agree. ^^^
Thirded.
This is the dynamic in play whether it's a man or a woman.
When they are gone and getting their intimate needs met elsewhere, there is no reason to come to you for it. They may do it out of greed, but we all know that it doesn't usually work out this way. The LBS DOES have a ROLE, and I want you to respect it. The LBS serves the role as a "fallback", so that they have nothing to lose even if the affair goes bad. The WAS also, will usually keep on going if the affair fails, because they are not "wrong". I'm a fan of removing the "fallback" option as fast as you can, unless you really don't mind.
