wow. tears. this is so fantastic. I am so so so happy for you!!! You've recognised it, dealt with it, and you'll never do it again. from now on it's just h's choice because you won't be forcing him into that role.
I had a bit of that dynamic myself I think all of us fixers do. And I never want to again. In fact I know I won't ever again because it hit me so hard when I realised.
big hugs and the chocolate cake at the picnic was fab!
