Got back from the trip a day ago, and it was really good. We connected a lot more, and had some very romantic and fun filled days/evenings. Truly wonderful time away with my H. He is definitely more expressive, warm, caring.
In fact, in the morning on the second day out, he just kissed me out of the blue (I was half asleep), and it was so sweet. He's actually complimenting me now, and I compliment him now every chance I get. Our sex lives have come back to life more consistently, passionately, loving and fulfilling.
OK, so what happened?
Well, starting off on the trip was a bit tense, but we got through that. I was a bit late and stressed because I was running late. I then forgot my passport and we had to turn around to go get it. I was ever so apologetic, and fortunately my H didn't freak out - which he would have done in past. I took responsibility for it, and we moved on. I also made sure I explained what had happened that morning and made sure I took full responsibility. Fortunately, we were not charged more for the late arrival for the next train.
The funny thing is that on the way back, and also catching the train, my H wanted to take a detour which I was fully supportive of. It did delay us again, and we again missed our train. He was apologetic, and I repeated that there was no need to apologise as I too was fully in support of his detour. We were not charged for that change of train either. So, someone was smiling down on us.
What I'm doing a lot these days is being very clear in my communication, don't put any blame anywhere, and certainly never shout. If I am late or forget something, I apologise and try to make up for it (if required). I sincerely compliment him, and I am finding myself quite able and willing to give him his time and space. As a result, he is asking me over more, asking me to do more things with him.
I feel a lot more secure with him as a result of all this because his own communication is getting better too (maybe taking cues from me?), and is a lot more forgiving too. I notice the efforts he is making and I appreciate that.
The most wonderful thing I feel emanating from him is his gentleness. He had covered that side of himself up for so long, it gives me feelings of love just thinking about it.
I've kept all my promises of no shouting, and if it carries on this way, I don't think I'll have a reason to shout ever again, haha!
I would say all the effort is definitely far more mutual again, and balanced, and my feelings of love are strong and steady. I'm happy
