you know h, i wonder if this maybe what is going on. first you gave your opinion on what you thought we should do and when we were done, i gave mine, and then the next thing you were upset that we never agree and we were on the road to a mess. Could it be that when you hear my opinion, which sounds different from yours, you hear it as me disagreeing with you, rather than that i am just saying what i think? for me, when i hear yours i don't think you are disagreeing, i think you are just saying what you feel or what you want to do. the way i see it is that we are offering 2 different viewpoints and that when we look for a solution , our solution will be much more richer because there is more depth to it"
Wow zena, you are having quite the weekend! Hope your dinner went well. I wanted to highlight this point because I think it is great - it really resonated with me as an issue i had with stbx. The way you framed it makes perfect sense and kudos for you for stopping where you were in the conversation to point this out to your h.
