I would think that a therapist might have had some insight as to why S was silent and angry, and been sympathetic and more kind.
"I am happy for what I have. I love my family and friends and spend time showing that. They (as well as you all:)) have been there for me and I am not going to take one more minute of their time hurting for what is lost."
IB, I too am grateful for life, grateful for the people who have been good to me, and basically feel happy.
I met New Guy and he (and his family) are part of my happiness, but I was also happy on my own. I think that's important!
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D