And here is another thing that Im curious about: H said tonight that one of the guys he works with wife left him because she was having an affair with a personal trainer. He automatically thought it was my old PT she was having the affair with, and asked if I knew anything about it. I told H that I havent spoke to my PT for about 6 weeks. But I doubted that it was him because he still wasn't over his ex. Hs reply: I dont know why you are doing all the right things now. Why couldnt you have done this before we were divorced.
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
God,Family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi
It doesn't matter when you started working on things for yourself- it never would have been soon enough for your H.
I'd been out of the country for a month before my BD and had decided during that time that there were a lot of changes I wanted to make in my life, but didn't get to tell H because I got the BD 24 hours after I returned.
Nevertheless, I decided to do those changes for myself over the past year. Even though H hasn't filed, he continues to tell me that he wishes I'd done things differently long before he became confused over what he wanted because it's difficult to see me being the type of person he wanted as a wife.
So while I think that means that we could have a chance of working things out now, he just thinks it all came too late.
Just keep working on you and don't worry about the timeline. You can't go back and change the past, just improve for your future.
M36 XH34 M-5 T7 4/11 H confused 5/11 ILYB 6/11 OW discovered 7/11 I move out, OW over 5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file 9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3 3/13 H/OW break up H files 4/13 D 6/18/13
Thanks Sweetbaby, and you are right. I am moving forward with working in me. I just thought it was odd one again, that 1) he called to let me know they were home from the fair, and then 2) the conversation about the PT. I know the request of me keeping our son next Sunday was the reason of the call, but wasnt necessary at 10:30 in the evening. Mind reading at best, but I think he wanted to know what I was doing since I wasnt at the fair. And then I think he wanted to know if I have in fact spoke to the PT. Maybe he isnt watching my gps and texts as he has in the past. Who knows.
And I still don't know if I made the right decision saying Id take our son next Sunday. But he wouldn't take him for me Friday? Thats what irks me.
Bah. Off to church.
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
God,Family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi
