Thought I would share some insights after going through my first week of empty-nesting:)

Actually had a pretty fabulous week - went to dinner at my fave restaurant ALONE:) Went spinning at 5:30am on M, W, and F:) Spent this Friday night out of town with my best friend and then spent yesterday and today moving my middle D back in to her apartment for school. Great time (yes, even the moving)

While I was doing this - my son continued to struggle with his father. Son got a ride from school to a town about an hour a way. He asked me to pick him up - but I told him that I had had these plans to go out of town and couldn't. So he asked his father. X said ok. X shows up with new gf (this after our oldest D had a long talk with her dad telling him before he brings new people into the picture he needed to work on developing relationships with them first). S did not speak the entire way home. GF says - "do you know what I do for a living? I am self employed as a therapist. Your father and I have quickly grown fond of each other and we support each other fully." S still does not respond. She adds "you are the rudest person I have ever met. If you were my kid you would get nothing from me." X drops son off - son is on porch crying - X says, "I'm so sorry - I will help you however I can." Tells him that gf is in AA and recovering....S says "REALLY Dad? - REALLY???"

This situation was the kick I needed. I always trick myself into thinking that HE (X) is living this normal, clean life and I am the crazy one. I always believe the new gf is going to be "the one" - and I get so down. I convince myself that she is so much better than me. I placed him on such a pedestal for so long. Do you know how much drama I have created over the last 2.5 years? NONE - it's not me. I lead a quiet, grateful life. I am happy for what I have. I love my family and friends and spend time showing that. They (as well as you all:)) have been there for me and I am not going to take one more minute of their time hurting for what is lost.

Have a great Sunday - I know I am going to:)

M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years
Ds-24,22/S-18
D - 3/11
A Day at a Time