To Lovingly Detach

[Arsene]

I know that I'm making most of this up(if not all). I guess I thought I was going to take her there and then straight home. After all she was tired. But instead she was probably going to stay at the bar for some time and get a lift home from someone. How she knew that there was someone there to give her a lift home is another story. You may be right 25 that this is not cake eating but I still think it is. She knows that I am eager to help (probably too eager) and I fell for it. I'm not blaming her, that's what people do with doormats. They wipe their feet on them and walk away.

I think i need to make myself less available from now on. JMO.

With regards to SIL, I guess you are right. it's just that she contacts me. We were close and our daughters were as well. We are friends me and her. She is also concerned for her sister but I did ask her not to interfere and try to sway her one way or the other. She just seems to be the only way I've got to find out about what is so attractive about OM right now. When I was reading that part in DR I kept wondering how I could do that, now that I'm totally out of W's circles around here.

How important is this gathering of info from the DB perspective? From what I read it seemed fairly important because it tells me what she is not getting from me. I don't know. I'll read that part again.

I'll do as you say, though and not pursue it.

Thanks 25 and MrsD, BTW, as i was writing that update I realised that it was what it was. Me imagining stuff and believing my own crap. I need to distance myself, to stop hurting myself,