New to DB

[hopefulinga]

I think my H may resent how caught up I am in my own stuff, but never says anything. That is why I asked him if I needed to quit teaching. I am going to consider dropping evening activities if I cannot get home to make dinner.

We enjoy going to concerts, but for now, he has told me he doesn't want to go out on any "dates", so that will have to wait until he is ready. He did end up buying the motorcycle seat I wanted, because the one he bought didn't fit. I have not brought up when he is going to take me for a ride at this point. I will let that go for a little bit. I told him how nice I thought it looked.

Otherwise, any other activity would require us to go somewhere together, such as racing. I haven't really asked him to do much because he's been working almost 7 days a week for a few weeks and I know he needs some down time. I will try to see how our interactions go over the next few weeks. There is a 3D movie that I know he would like to see and we could bring D16, so it wouldn't be a date.

I did start a journal but have been lax in writing in it lately. I agree that we get caught up in the negative, and I try to look at some of the small changes and not get worked up too much over the negatives.

I did write down a few goals, and am working on some more and some refining. So far, we haven't argued and the D word hasn't come up in almost 4 weeks. The last time it came up, there was an exact 4 week interval, so I am curious to see if it will come up on Monday, or if we are beyond that. I am also trying to look decent (no athletic shorts) and wear make up everyday. When we were at the funeral, a mutual friend asked him what the name of his super model was (I am 5'10" and I had on about a 3"+ heal). I've also gotten below my original goal weight, and now I am trying to keep it off.

Geez, I get so busy I can't even sit down to get some of this done. I don't want D16 to see the books and start asking questions. And of course I don't want H to see them.

Thanks for all of your thoughts and advice!! Hopefully we can all keep plugging in the right direction.