I thought it was weird that when this crisis hit he was open, friendly and sharing with me and then went MIA 24 hrs. later. Yes, I realize that I wondered because I had set expectations based on one really good interaction and that I should have known better.
Isn't it crazy how that is. I still get that from time to time, our BD is about the same time line.
Glad you noticed your reaction to it was based on expectations. Totally get that... me too... I agree with GM that he might have thought your concern and pursuit was based on some negative intent...
In the same token, I get the sense it is still the confusion. They are still connected to us... still come to us FIRST... still TRUST us with their personal, private, scary info...
I think the biggest difference between our two sitches is, for what ever reason, your H filed... In my sitch, it will probably be me that files...
And... we move forward, regardless of the outcome...
I echo this^^^^....he probably did have some financial dimensions to his situation b/c he's the one who wanted to measure the costs of YOUR existence and deduct it from his CS (werent' we suggesting you measure how much toilet paper you use, versus the kids, etc?? )
but along with that were your expectations.
The good news is he did reach out to you and you validated. Well done.
Now he's back to seeing you as the obstacle to his joy. When that belief stops jibing with reality, (& you are "out of the way") he will be affected.
Not sure which way but it won't hurt you anymore than a divorce, which is the path for now.
Keep up the great work KG.
I believe someday your h will say "wish she had made those changes sooner"
and when he does say that, the implication is clear....
"BECAUSE if she had, we'd be together as a whole family"
and I cannot believe that ^^ statement is not one of regret on his end.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
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