I echo KG's words. Congrats on a year of no serious conflict with your h?? Wow, that's excellent.
You would be much worse off if the conflicts continued as before, or escalated, so I'm positive you have gotten some "results" already.
I hear you about the downside of being without the kids. That IS normal. Of course there's an upside to it and when you are ready, you can embrace that freedom and all.
Thank GOD you hired a housecleaner. Brilliant simple move that reduces conflict in our home by at least half.
(What's money for if not that??)
Congrats on the progress. Have faith. Sometimes you have to believe in something you cannot see...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016