how much is too much time and distance?

[any chance?]

Update:
Not online much these days, as I am in that holding pattern during which there is not much to say. Communication is very spotty with xW, but everytime there is a connection, I get the she is not happy and is unclear where to go or what to do about it. She too seems to be a holding pattern with her 'new'OM, living with him in another state while waiting to start a job in yet another state.

I have been told by mutual friends to leave her be, let her carve her own path, that I cannot help her, and that she has to make her own mistakes and figure out her future. Makes sense, but it is a difficult thing to do, to be sure.

My doctor said simply, a couple of years ago when this whole nightmare began, "if you love her, keep loving her'. That is where I stand. Does she even know I am alive, or even care? Hard to tell. But I can tell her future is not written.

Trying to keep the door open a crack, but attempting to not look through the crack.

It has clearing sunk in that this is not a sprint, but a marathon....just have to keep on keeping on, I guess.

117 miles on the bike this week, with 26 more today. Going to keep on keeping on.....