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[hopefulinga]

I had a beer last night. Yes, this has been a tough couple of months. I talked to the wife of our friend yesterday, and I cannot imagine what she is going through. I offered to walk with her and the dogs when she is up to it, which will help her get out and me to GAL.

Going to DC did help. And H will be away again in 2 weekends on a motorcycle trip. Who knows how much we will talk to him. Most of the time, I have to call him. However, not long before the D bomb, he was calling me when he was out of town for work. And I don't know how much other Hs call their Ws, so I don't know if we are normal or not.

H gets cranky when he is stressed, and he is also easily frustrated. So while I think there have been some improvements, I am hesitant about getting to excited. We'll see what happens we he gets home.

I saw something in DB that has made me feel a little bad for the upcoming week. I was reading about the example couple, Ann and Steve, and how they both admitted that the R was better when they spent more time together and when she paid more attention to him. I feel the same way about my M. I know that I get caught up in my routine and don't pay enough attention to H. I've asked him if he would like me to stop teaching, and he said no.

Well, this week, I told him I would be out Monday and Tuesday night, and now I remember I have something to do Thursday as well. Oops. Tuesday is my last night teaching for now and Monday I am attending a leadership forum where the keynote speaker is George W. H knows I like to hob nob with political and community leaders, so I doubt this a problem. Thursday is to give a talk to people who have family members with Alzheimers, which will benefit my practice.

While I keep trying to do this, I need to make a better effort and not overscheduling stuff in the evenings. I also need to try to pay more attention to H and his activities. I can recall when I tried to go to one of his hobbies after I hadn't in a long time and he made a comment about my not being interested. I didn't see the writing on the wall then and I wish I did. I told him it was hard to go with him when I had to do housework. I've since tried to go, now at a new location, and he tells me Ws don't go. So I will continue to try and see what happens. I am truly interested, it is hard for me to balance everything.

I did hire people to clean the house last month, so that is one less thing I have to worry about, as I am no domestic goddess.