before I forget, Do NOT tell your w you are reading those books, least of all Div Busting or Div Remedy. They are for you only.
Otherwise, your "changes" will look like tactics right out of a BOOK!!! They will not be credible.
The books even say "don't share this" and they say it for a reason. It'll probably backfire and it helps so rarely, if ever, we just don't give it to them.
It's key that you get this.
Do you?
<sigh> That ship has sailed. When we first started having problems I found the DB and DR books, and when they came in the mail, I showed them to W. She was not interested, we were very much not in touch with one another, and she said very little. I read them, but my situation seemed so different from some of what I read that a lot of it seemed to not apply. What I realize now is that I should have kept them a secret and detached earlier. Anyway, she knows I'm a reader and a fixer. I don't read the books around her and I usually keep them at work. It's possible that she'd put together that I'm working out techniques from the books, but more likely she just thinks I'm annoying and crazy at this point.
More to follow.
M: 34 W: 33 T: 11y M: 4y Bomb: 6/29/2012 Same roof, different rooms: 8/5/2012
