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[Denver_2010]

Denver,

Definitely a HOT button for me due to the use of it from my W! She used it to keep in contact with old BF's, which under the surface bothered me slightly, but not to extremes because they all lived in different parts of country which she never visited.

Until the whammy as I like to call it, sent me over the edge in my over-analyzing brain of mine. When FB first came out, you used to be able to check on the search page of someone's use who they have tried to look-up. Well one day while being the idiotic investigator that I used to be, I decided to check her FB search history. When I checked it, she had searched and tried to find the (2) priors that were mentioned early on in my posts of my sitch. This immediately got under my skin because this was years after we got back together and reconciled. Especially years of what I thought were blissful years back together.

I confronted her on why she would look those particular people up & what would be the purpose? She immediately stated that she was just curious. I kind of accepted that answer, but not before voicing my opinion of how hurtful of an action that was, especially after so many years & how hard it was for me to get over. It most likely was innocent & curiosity, but IMHO was blatant disrespect toward me. So ever since then I have had a burning pit of fire inside over FB and all social networks!!!

To add fuel to this burning pit of fire, I found out that she met the priors via internet social networking chat rooms previous to FB, myspace etc...Of course she never told me this, but never trust a disgruntle sister who is upset with the other and wants to get back at them in some way.

All water under the bridge though! Of course I still have no desire to set-up a FB page because I think FB is the downfall of the world...LOL

It was disrespectful for you W to have looked up those OM on FB. It is totally valid for you to feel that way.

There is a part of me that shares your view of FB and other social media. However, it is so prevalent that it is getting almost impossible to be a part of it.

I don't know. There is a part of me that wants to tell you that opening a FB account might be a good 180 for you, and for your W to see from you. Being so uptight about it (which again I don't blame you for) may have been perceived by her as very conservative and somewhat controlling behavior.