Denver- thanks for the reply on my thread. It's great for me to have others to toss thoughts around with who have been through the same. When you have time - pop over to my thread. Thanks.
I highly recommend "A weekend to remember" My H and I went last March and it was amazing. It was intense for us but gave us the opportunity to talk about the hard stuff. THere are assignments you do together. It really was great. Interesting that you mentioned it- I just went on line yesterday to see when they are doing them again. I would like to make it a yearly event for us.
Thanks Fig! Sent her flowers today for no reason other than I know that she had a tough couple of weeks. Something that I would never have done in the past.
LJGH - W and I actually did the Weekend to Remember back in March when she was trying to 'forgive' me and work towards being able to commit to R. It was her idea. She thought it might help her get to a place where she could decide whether or not she could try to reconcile.
It was great. It was awkward at the time though because we weren't really committed to our M. Well, I was, but she wasn't. She did the assignments and did try though. She had a tough time with the love letter and the intimacy portion for sure. We shared a hotel room, but slept in separate beds. What happened after the conference and now, well, is history. The conference is something that she and I have also talked about doing on an annual basis.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce