Detaching is by far the hardest part, between hearing our song yesterday like 3 times while seeing all these cute old married couples. that and constantly hearing the "sigh no more" song by Mumford and sons. Makes it hard.
If you react so much to songs, then why don't you stop listening to them? Seems that would be one area you could have some control over.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!