"She is either distancing herself from me to piss me off or to trying and entice me to make a move. "
This is YOUR interpretation of her actions. She could simply just be going what she's doing and you're just hyper-sensitive to everything and every move she makes.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
"She is either distancing herself from me to piss me off or to trying and entice me to make a move. "
This is YOUR interpretation of her actions. She could simply just be going what she's doing and you're just hyper-sensitive to everything and every move she makes.
He IS being hypersensitive and aware of her actions. It's a reactive way to be, it really is a waste of time.
In many of the WAS especially WAW cases, the WAS is irritated by the LBS attempt to communicate. My belief is because the "channels" that the LBS are trying to communicate through are now occupied by the OM or OW. When you try to communicate through that channel that their "love" is, it makes them angry or rubs them the wrong way.
Had a good day at work, was nice to get something accomplished. The. Had dinner with W, then shopped for some more work cloths and new shoes. Over all had good times, pressure free, made her laugh, made eye contact as much as I could, listened and more importantly did not backslide.
Going tomorrow to MC and then to snowboard gear shopping. She still wants to go to camping etc... I feel lucky for that. I will not give up...
Still getting the roommate treatment but I still have hope.
Detaching is by far the hardest part, between hearing our song yesterday like 3 times while seeing all these cute old married couples. that and constantly hearing the "sigh no more" song by Mumford and sons. Makes it hard.
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
Time for bed.... At least I still get to sleep next to this beautiful amazing lady...
Give yourself a chance. If she's cuckholding you currently, you have to look at yourself for what you are. A great guy who deserves a woman who really appreciates him.
Alot of your energy and ambition is currently held back and being taken advantage of worrying about her every move. If you did want a chance to lay with a lady as "beautiful and amazing" as your own wife, you could not even look at her that way.
Great start to the day!!!! W said "I had a lot of fun last night with you." I have not heard anything like that come out of her mouth for months. Then before she left for work she gave me a huuuuge hug.
I am not reading into this too much, just gonna enjoy it. I hope we have some great conversation at the MC and then a great evening getting some snowboarding gear and having dinner together again.
She made mention that she wanted to go on a week long retreat to get herself grounded again. I might not like it because of my own neediness but I am over that and I support her decision as I think it will help her bring clarity to the sitch.
I know I am an amazing find, I know I am a great husband and I know if she looks deep enough she will see I am her ideal mate. I just have to accept the bi bumps which may still occur before she figures it out. But she is soooooo worth if.
Patience, patience, patience...
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
Just talked to a friend of mine going through a D here soon. I am glad my sitch is not like his. Makes me appreciate my W's honesty and ability to have some desire to at least try working on out R.
Friends wife is bi-polar with bouts of paranoia. Plus they have two kids and a home underwater. Man I don't feel so bad anymore.
I still hope for the best out of today with our MC and our evening out tonight.
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
Detaching is by far the hardest part, between hearing our song yesterday like 3 times while seeing all these cute old married couples. that and constantly hearing the "sigh no more" song by Mumford and sons. Makes it hard.
If you react so much to songs, then why don't you stop listening to them? Seems that would be one area you could have some control over.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
