To Lovingly Detach

[Arsene]

Well, just a bit of an update before I call it a night.

I was just chatting with SIL who lives in another nearby country. W had confided in her before the Bomb Drop and for some reasons, SIL contacted me a few time via FB. Today we were able to talk a lot more openly. She is totally in my camp and she doesn't understand her sister. She told me that she talked to W on the phone a few weeks ago and that she'd asked if W had another man. Apparently W said that she was seeing OM but that it wasn't serious. That they were just friends. (I know! believe none of what they say!). Another piece of info which came my way, is the fact that other than SIL, W's family is in the dark. W hasn't told anyone about our separation, or her intentions.

SIL says that she too, doesn't recognize her sister and although she promised never to tell W that we occasionally chat and that I talk to her, she said that since she was W's confident, she would make sure that if W came to her looking for answers or with uncertainty about what she is doing, she would gently point the way.

An interesting thing here is that SIL went through a similar thing a few years ago when her H repeatedly had PA with the same OW. She is full of determination and strength and to know that this incredible woman who managed to get her H back after a few years of going through what I'm going now, is on my side makes me feel very good. She told me to keep up the good work and to be patient and loving. She is convinced that her sister will return.

I know that I shouldn't put too much weight into this but I can't help but feeling good about it for now.