But even though I think those are what she needs, I still have to ASK her what makes her happiest when the time comes. I dont think I realized until all of this happened that i've never done that.
Yeah, don't beat yourself up too much on this. I've known my W most of my life (27 years now I think) and I didn't know what her LL was. Yeah, I had an idea, but still, talk about feeling stupid.
