Good for you MrsD and remember to review those words often b/c it takes time for that to stick. Remind yourself often that as much as you would like to keep contact....its not good for you, nor is it good for your goals. And im talking about both of your goals #1 to make yourself into a better person #2 to make your next relationship incredible (hopefully with your ex but either way it is going to be so much better if you do #1 first)
