But I think the one situation can lead into the other-Dad is passive, Dad chooses to remain passive, or only steps in with overblown reaction when things are 'out of control', Mom reacts negatively to that, Dad returns to passive, resentment builds. As time goes on Dad blames kid behaviors on Mom.
I don't think kids should have to earn a parent's love. But I can still love my kids and not approve of all of their choices.
I would guess that if asked Ad's H would say he loves his kids he just doesn't approve of their behavior.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
