Yes, that will help spur you to a different place, but you'll come back and visit this place. Almost 18 months from BD and I can still get into the 'poor me' mode, it just passes more quickly. Meditation does help.
This is not a linear process, so don't have that expectation either. Some lessons have to be repeated.
You are getting it.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss