Hi RH. Yes the patience thing is the thing I struggle with most. I guess we just want to go back to "normal" - whatever "normal" is!
Have tried a few things, but again always careful not to overdo it. I'm getting the feeling more and more that H wants to proceed to something (i'm pretty sure its ML), but I am holding off for a few reasons. No. 1 ..I'm scared, because the one and only time we did after BD was disastrous from my perspective. I was extremely hurt and don't want to feel that way again. I found it hard to detach. No. 2..i'm trying to follow DB advice about getting R to a more romantic place first. No. 3...i'm sensing his need (like when he stands and looks at me in the shower) but am waiting for some more concrete signs (H does not reciprocate my acts of affection yet). No. 4...I don't really feel like giving H what he wants without some more work on his part. I've not had advice on this but I do have some self-esteem left. Make sense?
How is RE school going for you? Are you enjoying it? you sound happy!
