"Going dark is hard if she comes over nearly every day. Any suggestions. "

Yeah. Stop having her come over every day. You're not married any more right? Or if you insist on her coming over, start changing things around the house to how YOU want it.

"She always said that before any chance of reconciling could happen, she would need to put the old R to rest "

Then she needs to stop walking around like she's still married to you.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER