So here's my story --

[afa75]

So a weird update, then again maybe par for the roller coaster ride many of us are on / choosing to get off of.
Later this morning she sent me a few texts, thanking me for the help and apologizing for the way she reacted. She also then called and chatted me up for a few minutes.
On my way to work I was about to stop a store to buy something and ran into her while she was picking up a prescription. So she asked if I'd follow her to drop her car off for an oil change and then take her back work. No biggie. I wanted some alone time with her just for more general chit chat type stuff. Make a good moment or two happen.
So anyways, it's her weekend to go out and she said it felt "awkward." Not sure what that means and I think I'm going to keep exactly as that.

[MrBond]

"it's her weekend to go out and she said it felt "awkward.""

Your arrangement does sound odd. I mean it's almost like you're forcing the other person to have to go out that weekend or else they missed their chance. Sounds very controlled.

[afa75]

You're pretty much on track there MrBond.
It was her idea to have this way. Last weekend, my turn to go out, I really just wanted to stay home and hang out with the kids, but had to go GAL, so I did with some friends. Therefore, her saying "awkward" makes it even weirder. At least to me does.

[afa75]

So yeah, she comes home toting several bottles of wine for the weekend, including a couple for me. ???

[MrBond]

Stop questioning every little thing she does or says. Take things in stride and see how you can make things better.

[afa75]

For what it is worth, I am actually much better now than initially.
There's so much info the DR and this site. I do appreciate your direct approach, as most everyone else has been giving me the "poor you" sympathy and its quite sickening at this point.

[MrBond]

Well this site is about solutions and after being at it for so long, you'll see that there are so many similarities between some sitches.

Bottom line is like what they say in DB. Put the focus off your spouse and onto you. How you do that is up to you.

[afa75]

Today I have a C appt and I'm going to try to make the focus primarily about me GAL as well as acceptance / detachment.

[afa75]

One more thing, taking the mental stop sign and adding a positive replacement image is helpful at reducing negative intrusive thoughts.

[afa75]

So while getting ready to leave the house and drop off the lil guy for my appt, she called home. Her reason to see if is be kind enough to drop off a few medications she forgot (antibiotic / mild pain reliever). I agreed too because her work was on the way I was headed. No biggie. So she loved on our lol guy for a few moments and thanked me. She said "I really appreciate it.". My responses, "You're welcome" to the thank you and "You should," in a nonchalantly and non condescending tone. She seemed struck by that. We then waved happily and smiled as I left.