Now separated. Am I doing the right things? Pt 2

[Denver_2010]

Bond, Acc, Denver….Thank you so much, I really appreciate it! I am writing my plan out to make sure I have it down.

1.I need to ask W for the list of school supplies and then I will go buy them.

2.Let her know that I am not attending our daughter’s birthday party and I am having my own birthday celebration with her.

3.I will expect push back from W however my response will be via email so I will have time to articulate things before responding.


Just to let you guys know, W is going to get livid!!!!!!!! She’s going to lose it and unleash on me like no other. Oh well, you guys really help give me the strength and ability to stay strong!


Here’s my tentative email response to W. If you don’t mind, please adjust accordingly. Some of you guys are very helpful with wordsmithing.


W,

Regarding daughter’s birthday, I will be having my own celebration with her. You also mentioned the kids are starting school soon and “need some things” I am more than happy to help out with the kids supplies, please provide me the list and I will work on getting them.


Ok, my draft doesn’t have much substance to it. I am wondering if it should be worded in a more eloquent fashion? It’s just really cut and dry and to the point. In a way, it seems like a vicious response. I don't want to come across mean, maybe it should be toned down just a bit?

Rough

Nope. It is absolutely perfect. You want to be dry and to the point. It is not mean at all. I think that it is rather nice. Afterall, you do say that you are "more than happy to help out...". I considered telling you to take that out.

Doesn't matter if she is livid about this. You can't control her reactions, nor should you try. You do what is right for YOU.