I have to confess it's self satisfying for a while, but after a while it's not.
That's a hard lesson, isn't it? Remember the anger and how you wanted stuff like this to happen to him? I remember those days. But I saw this kind of thing happening and really don't wish it on ex. I think you saw/see why, but wanted to call it out for others to see as well.
Nobody is happy if ex is unhappy, even if we at times think we would be. That's our bruised ego talking, but after it calms down, we find that it's not satisfying to see them suffer.
I remember when ex was sooooo depressed and living here. I almost gave in to her craziness then just to try and get her out of it. I didn't, and I'm glad I didn't, but it's because I knew I wouldn't be happy with that either. Because I don't want to see her angry and depressed even if with the things she chose to do toward me.
I won't return anger for anger. I just plain won't as I see it as a bad cycle that hurts everyone.
Hang in there, and as Snodderly mentions, he needs to face the consequences. He needs to make the changes for him in his life. Watch from a safe distance if you must
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
