Can you buy your D's supplies? The school should have a list of what they need. Take the initiative to do it yourself.
As for your D's birthday, you can just as easily have your own birthday party for her on your own. How often do you get her?
Bond is right on both fronts. Get the list and buy the supplies yourself.
Have your own bday party for your D.
Your W needs to start seeing the consequences of her actions.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce