Okay. So we know a few places where maybe she feels that you let her down. And it seems that you agree.

I'm not sure that this stuff is the most pressing thing to talk about right now, but I will just say that IF you find yourself in a conversation with her about these things, you should listen to her and validate her feelings. Don't defend, explain, just validate... "W, you are absolutely right about this. I didn't not handle those situations well. I know that now, and I'm so very sorry. I can't change the past, but I can make sure not to repeat the mistakes of the past. That's all that I can say or do."

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce