Yes I can get the list of school supplies, good idea and I will work on taking the initiative on that one. I also think this is a good idea because if I just gave W some money I can’t say for sure what it would be going towards. Even if I chip in on school supplies and birthday stuff I wouldn't be surprised if W comes up with a reason for wanting more money for other stuff. I am now thinking more about our daughter’s birthday party and I am not sure what to do.
Our son turned 8 at the very beginning of our separation. Because of his age he has a good grasp of what’s going on and it was REALLY important for him that I attended the birthday party, which I did. A lot of my W’s friends were there and some of my in laws, etc….It was a little awkward but I just focused on making sure my son had a good birthday.
Our daughter is turning 5 and she wants an inexpensive birthday at the park and because of her age I don’t feel it’s as important to her that I attend. Now that time has passed, I feel it would be even more awkward then going to my sons party a couple months ago. On the flip side, I am good at socializing and I could be viewed in a good way by smiling and chit chatting with all the other moms while also making sure to focus on my daughter’s birthday. I just know all my in laws and W’s friends will be asking me what I am up to and I am not very fond of that idea.
I want there to be some “mystery” behind me and a previous post suggests that it’s good to make W “wonder” which I agree with and I think I would probably be more effective at this by just not going. I get the kids every other weekend and every Tuesday night so I could also have a private party.
It’s amazing how a separation or divorce can turn everything into one big cluster fu!k but I guess that’s how our marriage was too. I just don’t know the best way to handle this one????
