I also remembered that in counseling on Tuesday W said she still feels hopeless about the situation.
After my wife dropped the bomb on me she agreed to counseling, but much like your wife, she just kept saying week after week that there was no hope for our future. She acknowledged I had made big 180's and that I had corrected every flaw she had previously complained about, but she just kept saying that she didn't "want to try". My wife went dark for a weekend before coming to me and telling me she couldn't go on like that, since then we've gotten along great, done things by ourselves and with the kids, and all in all are behaving like a proper married couple. But she's still moving out. Honestly it's perplexing to me, but clearly I have no choice but to let her go and work things out on her own. I have a feeling that your W is going to have to do the same, being in the same house isn't enough of a separation for her.
Originally Posted By: 9600
This morning I wondered to myself why I would stay with someone who obviously doesn't care a bit for my feelings or this marriage or is even willing to respect the vows she took.
Like Michele says in DB, don't believe anything she says and only half of what she does. She's confused and hurting inside regardless of what she's showing on the outside. She IS conflicted about breaking her vows, hurting you, "giving up", but she's also fallen in love with the idea of a newer and better life without you. You're going to have to let her go to figure it out herself. Stick with the DB game plan!
