The best advice I have gotten so far - Don't contact her for anything...Let her come to you...No texting, emailing, calling etc...She knows you love her...She knows you are there...She knows she can come back - You were told those things...She knows all this and it is time for you to detach a little more...Pull back and do your own thing...She will hear how you are through the grapevine...She will see you aren't contacting her and will then become curious as to why...
I know it is hard...It takes every ounce of self control that I have not to contact my H...Each morning I wake up and want to text him and see how he is...Where he is...What he is doing etc...But I can't (well I could but I won't)...He needs to know I don't need him...I want him however I no longer need him..I don't contact him for anything at all now...He went 7 days and then contacted me...I saw him on Saturday and haven't heard from him since...We have 2 kids and he doesn't even check on them right now...That is almost to painful to type...
Rant and rave all you want...Just not to her...Hell I will give you my email address and you can scream at me...Just drop the rope a little more with her...Let her flail around in her "happy life" and see what a wonderful treasure she is leaving behind...You, me, all of us deserve better...None of us deserve to be second best...We deserve to be first and foremost.
My wish for you today...
"May the sun bring you new energies by day May the moon softly restore you by night May the rain wash away any worries you may have And the breeze blow new strength into your being….. And then all the days of your life may you walk gently Through the world and know its beauty" ~Author Unknown
