Please, please help me. I am going through hell!! I am 54 years old, married. All of our kids are now out of the house. My wife was diagnosed as bi-polar about a year and half ago. We have survived an affair that she had. Are surviving with struggles of life. But because of the bi-polar and medications it is like my wife is avoiding being sexual with me, my wife is not interested in sex. It has slowly gone from having sex maybe once a week to now, if I'm lucky, once a month. And even then, it's not really having sex. It's more like her saying, "Hurry up and get in here and let's do this so I can go to sleep." There is no foreplay. She doesn't even kiss me. I'm the one who always is initiating any sort of affection... Whether it is hugs, kisses or anything.
I understand that the bi-polar has a lot to do with it and she says that she is going to talk to her psychiatrist to see about having her medications adjusted. I am fearful in two respects: 1) the medications are adjusted but it causes the hypo-manic behavior that she was dealing with that caused the affair, and she goes back to that behavior 2) the medications can’t be adjusted in-order to keep her from having hypo-manic behavior.
I love my wife very much. Understand that bi-polar plays a lot into this. But is there a happy medium where we can have a normal marriage and relationship?... Looking for answers or at least some in-sight.
