I really like your text and will keep that one in the back of my mind b/c thats really one of the largest drivers of our problems.
I hope it helps. The apologies have really helped immensely. I was hesitant to do them at first, but they really hit the mark for my W. My W told me the other night that the blanket "sorry" was really meaningless for her, because she didn't really feel like I was. There were no specifics tied to it, and she thought it was easy to say it without truly meaning it.
We're planning to go to a retrov CORE session in a couple of weeks about the languages of apology (kinda like the 5 LL) and I am really looking forward to that. I'm hoping we not only learn, but can use it as a springboard to move past some of this stuff.
