How things are improving Part Deux

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. I actually don't give a hoot about the W's visit. It's what she's perpetuating. And all the damn hard work that I need to do because of it


there you go - that's what you are fighting the damned hard work!!!

recognize within yourself that you are fighting YOURSELF!

come to terms with that and get on with what you have to do!!
it's called growing up - and we are ALL trying to do it.

you cannot go through the motions without the secret ingredient - your committment to it

I'm still not hearing the commitment.

you HAVE to start accepting that she's on her train ride and the details do NOT matter.

of course she's going to the L - why wouldn't she?

don't be silly - if she's started this process, she is going to continue with that for now.

what are YOU going to do about it?

fight it to the death or drop the rope and go towards acceptance and more peace within yourself.

go read my thread and the conversation with KD last night. i was all fired up ready to stop what h is about to do, yesterday.

read what KD wrote to me... and apply it to your sitch, eh?

we are all struggling with the same things you are, mac - every last one of us, and it's the same - spin off or stop spinning,

i'm not saying you have to be perfect at this - i'm saying you have to try and do less of what you have been doing - which is allowing yourself to truly spin off and stay spinning , deaf to anyone else's advice.

i'm still not hearing the commitment, i'm still not seeing you say how often you are doing the exercise.

I want to see your clear definitive STATEMENTS in your post - because only when you write them down and keep doing it every hour - only then will you truly commit to helping yourself.

so before starting with your wife - start with yourself!

ps. did you do the physical part? of jumping up and down running up and down the stairs

get going on this - i'm not counting this as starting the hour, because you are still not committing