I've been trying to get some of the work done to separate his and mine. He has known for a year that we need to go in person to the mobile phone store and take his phone off my account. I CAN'T do that for him. I can go in and just shut his phone off.... I have explained this to him and he just has excuse after excuse. He is always tired.
And I understand he works all day and just wants to come home and watch TV. But there is a lot of work to do and if we did one thing a day, it would all be done soon and without a whole bunch of stress.
Okay, just venting. Maybe he will just have to take a couple days leave when the D is final so we can take care of all the details. Won't that be fun, spending quality time together?
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Wendy, I understand your frustration w/your h concerning the phone. My xh wanted the utilities put in my name just 30 days after he left, but he had to either go in person or authorize the change over the phone. He threatened to have my phone disconnected while my 81 yr old father was in the hospital having hip replacement surgery. Thank goodness the PI had gotten his apartment number. I called and told him just what I thought and pointed out that he was the one holding the issue up and to get up off his @ss and call Verizon. I hung up and immediately called Verizon and I had a representative who was absolutely wonderful and immediately processed my request based on what I told her. My xh never contacted anyone at Verizon or the electric or water companies. I did it all...just by explaining he nasty behavior.
Bottom line, he's not going to help you in any way. You are going to have to go in and take him off of your account by having his phone cut off. If you don't, you'll be carrying him on your account for a very long time. Advise him that this is the last time you are going to ask him. If he doesn't cooperate and work with you on this, you will take the necessary action to have him removed from your account, which means...phone service is cut off.
Wendy, don't rely on him for anything. He's basically leaving it all up to you. I hope that I am wrong about this, but my xh did absolutely nothing in the way of changing out joint credit cards, etc.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
When STBXH came home from work today he was acting antsy. I was paying bills, the last task I had on my planned stuff for today. I had a nice dinner in the oven. He sat down and was watchig TV. I told him he could eat without me, as I was mid-task. He waited for me to finish. Then we ate together.
Then I brought up how I thought we were going to work out the money. And he said that he agreed, but expressed his concern that we won't have enough cash saved up to pay first and last months deposits on rentals, and the hassles of moving. I see that is a valid point, and offered a plan to set aside some money for that.
So we had a nice talk and no nasty words were exchanged. SHocking how nicely things go with actual communication.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
You must have caught him when he was having a moment of clarity.
I hope he will work with you on the money issues.
Enjoy your day.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Yes, those moments of clarity are always suprising. Must have made him grumpy, because he didn't say good morning, or good bye as he left today. I was busy getting stuff ready for the Brokers open this morning.
I was super irratable yesterday, just couldn't get my mood under control. I finally settled down last night, went to bed 2 hours later than normal. I think I'm the one acting all MLC....
I went on a nice hike a few days ago with this guy I've gone out with a few times. I think my irratation was partly from him. Super nice guy, volatile ex and 2 young kids. We were talking and he was telling me how he believes Obama's birth certificate is a fake and how "they" put him in office as a communist infiltraitor.
I am not a political creature. But I know crap when I hear it. My sister is a rabid FOX news fan. I try to stay informed, but I actually believe that most of the reporting no days is just for ratings. And that all the talking heads are just highly paid entertainers....
NEXT!!!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
AJ wrote this on Nero's thread. It really struck a chord with me.
But it's entirely possible to move on and not blame anyone other than those that made choices to hurt you. Regardless of how they justify it in their head, they made choices and those choices hurt you.
I want to add that the above is very true. AND I recognize that I also made choices to hurt my marriage. I have tried to change and be a better person. Only time will tell if I actually become one. The important part is that I am trying to be a better person.
Hope everyone has a nice day. My task today is to get every dead leaf and live weed out of my big front yard for the open house Sunday.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
On a lighter note, Nice Guy/Conspiracy Theorist came up with two more that made me laugh so hard. The entertainment factor counts for something, right?
Okay.... the OJT I was offered is part of a big plan to get unemployed people off the books so the unemployment rate will look better so Obama can get re-elected. Way to rain on my job offer. NG/CT also asked me to never eat at McDonalds or drink another soda again. (? Controlling?)
But I am going to have to say my biggest problem with him, the tall, pot smoking guy is that he has horrible breath from his smoking pot. Which comically is precisely the reason I got rid of the tall, pot smoking guy with the same first name who I was dating in high school. I guess he was on his best behaviour our first few dates. Oh Well......
I probablt should put dating on the back burner and wait for all the dust to settle from all this.
I just sealed all the grout STBXH cleaned with some horribly caustic chemicals. Sure wish who ever put white grout in this house had sealed it when they laid it. We have fought with it for years. When in doubt go for the product with the most warnings. Dang did that stuff stink and work.
I'm taking my granddaughters down to Waikiki Beach this afternoon. Tomorrow is an Indigo Class. And Sunday the Open House! Moving right along here!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
