As to my tone, I am neither angry not vindictive at all. I would have to care to have those emotions and that is simply not the case. That died in the last round of Monster, and even before was on life support. (I am just tired and saddened now and only feel pity for him.) Instead I have spent much of this time trying to help him, to cover for his actions, to correct or explain his words and actions, but that has not helped. As to spinning my wheels etc-not happening. I am taking care of the situation and walking away, nothing more, nothing less. Yes things happened relatively quickly in that I reached my limit in a few short days but then I have been putting up with this for many months and the cumulative effect became clear in the time we were together most recently. I was so detached and did not feel anything for him romantically as he was acting like a child, sulking, throwing things, yelling, throwing crumbs of maybe maybe for a future, and then withholding affection when I did/said something he did not like. I became so disgusted and tired of the nonsense, even happy when he was leaving-tired of walking on egg shells-just physically exhausted.
As to her parents, I know about her mental issues because her mother informed us over a year ago when she was being treated for depression, failing her classwork, cutting, and was suicidal. She-mother came to Cuckoo to thank him for his support and help, for spending so much time with her, distracting her and giving her something to look forward to. Further, it is only because my parents said they wished someone had told them about his previous behavior as they can now look back and see things that should have been warnings. I am offering them NO opinions only access to his rantings on my FB, copies of the tapes of him threatening to kill me, and court documents so if they can help their daughter they can choose to do so or not. I do not really care one way or another. He is on his own and I will never do one thing to help him or let him be involved in my life again. I AM DONE.