can Turtles still stand?

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You are not STILL there... you've come around... much of this stuff we re-visit and that is good, because each go around, we learn more.


this one i get - i see it repeatedly and so for now, i allow the next level of acceptance, and this time i acknowledge that when it comes up for me again - as it will, i will be more prepared and see it for what it is.

The most important part about a double bind is to know that the only way out of one is to remove yourself from it.


I am putting this up on my wall - I will read it everyday, just like i told mac to do - and slap myself on the face to be reminded of it.

the advice and the help about encouraging the greatness in h - YES!

thank you for helping me on that - i have done that - encouraged him and will continue to do so.

last night he asked me in an hurt little boy voice - why doesn't s ever call me to say goodnight? doesn't he want to talk to me?

i replied he takes his cue from you i think. he got hassled and started in on how it was stupid to talk on the phone anyway and why would anyone want to do that, it's boring and of course s doesn't call him because it's so boring.

I just replied quietly - s lights up when you call him and talk to him, he is so so happy afterwards.

tonight - h called early - so he would have enough time to talk to s - first time in a year.

i see how this works - to encourage the greatness in h...