Arsene, I am really trying not to engage too many people because I can't be here much. I know you have been getting really great support.
I do want to stress back to what I was originally talking to you about early in you becoming a member here.
I agree that you must tread... I won't say "careful" regarding your D8, but you do have to respect local customs and laws. So I think that to some degree, you are doing the right thing. Although I do agree that you may want to consult another local L for a second opinion and also to get an idea of your rights as a non-local, yet parent of a local born child.
Once again, if you have time and capacity to do so, please do more research into how you can better integrate with the locals and how locals deal with this type of thing, amongst themselves. There are cultures, even in developed countries, which do a lot to self govern. There may be some peer support you might be able to find, there.
I do not know the status of your visa, so I don't know if you might be at risk of being deported or detained in the event that you rock the boat. I really have no idea, but again... I do understand your caution.
Context... is sometimes everything... DB within the context of the society you and your D8 reside.
