[Arsene]

Hi AMA,

I think detachment is the most difficult thing to do properly. It's so counter intuitive, it goes against every thing you believe in yet, from what the vets, and others say around here, it's got to be one of the most important things you do.

I think that it's great that she's already noticing changes in you but keep calm and stay the course. You probably shouldn't do too much of that "taking her coffee at work" thing, no matter how well this seemed to have gone to you.

I'm not sure how to handle the family problem but the way I see it, there is nothing you can do about them. Focus on yourself and do the changes you want to do to be the best man you can be. She married you once with her family's disapproval, she'll do it again if you give her a good enough reason to do it.

All the best,