I came back to the forum roughly a year ago with that title -- that's not the goal line. This is a marathon, not a sprint. If she comes back before she's ready you're in for more suffering in a different venue. Give her space to let her miss you. Make her WONDER what you're up to -- make her WONDER if you still care! That's the most powerful thing you can do -- appear to be happy, *independent* and enjoying your life.

Giving her gifts or performing acts of service can undercut that because it's obvious you're still on the shelf waiting for her to throw you some scraps. Don't take scraps -- wait for the steak.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015