Zena - I've been reading along today but not really sure what to add right now.
But this really jumped out at me - do you really want to give up the opportunity to celebrate with your friend on her 50th birthday? I'm kind of concerned that you would NOT go on the chance that your H would bring OW. I get why you don't want to be around OW - but - where does you supporting your friend fall into this? You can't get her 50th birthday party back.
More food for thought for you tonight, you've got a lot on your plate, I know
