So much has happened I hardly know where to begin. I have had extreme monster now for days. Yelling, pouting, nasty messages-really crazy stuff. He reverted back to the anger phase of May-when I told him I would not put up with the spewing, I am done, get out of my life, leave me alone etc. Wow, did a fight erupt. He called me all sorts of names again. I asked him to get help, told him he is having a midlife crisis and is out of control. He got very angry spewing crap from years ago at me, then mimicing me, then said I was the one who needed help. I stayed calm and just told him to get his things and get out of my life, that I was done with him, that I would no longer allow him to blow up my life or make me collateral damage. A week of yelling, accusations about me being unfaithful-the whole ridiculous gamut followed, and nasty posts ensued. I again told him to get his things and leave me alone. He responded with a slew of threats and then "unfriended" me. Hurray!!! No more crazy posts I thought. (Threats included suing me for the 12 year old bed, wanting the money for the house that he paid while living here, wanting his ring back, and getting custody of the dogs just to name a few.) One hour later people from around the world literally began sending me messages saying how sorry they were I was off my medication and being hospitalized for suicidal tendencies. WTF???? I finally got to the bottom of that-he posted some nonsense on FB saying how worried sick he is about me etc etc. I left him a message to take it down or I would file charges with the police and the school. He did take it down after the second threat. Then today he sent emails to our joint friends saying I was "mentally ill" and "would not accept the break up amicably."
"M has lost her mind; trying to threaten me, stealing my goods, such as the ring and my bed. She is literally taking out an order of protection against me!!! I cut all contacts with her but she claims I will not leave her alone. She owes me money and will not give the ring back to me. It is awful. Why can people not part amicably? I am happy never to contact her again in any way." (Sure but then why not stop-nothing is ever this a$$es fault-such a sick man.)
Also that he is delirously happy and in love and the only problems in his life all come from me. Sure-what does "Leave me alone and get out of my life mean?" Also a message to me saying I had "killed all his feelings." So another round of friends calling and emailing. I had had enough. I know he is under stress and in his little sick pea brain he blames me that he has to go back to the job he hates, his little girlfriend is in Arizona at college supposedly, he is having all sorts of issues closing on the house with problems with financing and insurance, he did not get to visit here again before leaving, he went back there to find that his landlord had been staying in his apartment, moved out the refrig and stove, and his mommy and sister have been feeding his "poor me" delusions, but this is ridiculous. So I NUKED him. I notified the insurance company I wanted him off my policies as he does not live here and I was afraid he would do something crazy (since he is driving erratically and not wearing his glasses)that I did not want to be financially responsible for. I notified the Secretary of State police that he was trying to renew his license and license plates in my name and address after I asked him to change those to his new house in Missouri and had not lived here in 5 years full-time. I filed a criminal complaint against him for threatening to kill me and for stealing a rifle from me and asked for an order of protection. I also called his dean on reccommendation of the police as they will have to extradite him from the school in Missouri and I do not have his new address. I told the dean everything-him screwing the student, the threats, his nasty posts, his inappropriate behavior on FB with students, his jokes and comments about gay people and his own sex life-his size etc., his plans to quit the job, his threats to military servicemen, everything. Then I told the dean I would file suit against the nut and the school as he is using the schools computer and internet service to make the threats and slanderous comments, and that WHEN he goes nuts and hurts someone I will stand on TV and tell everyone that the school was warned that he had mental problems and did nothing about it thereby leaving them open to legal problems. The dean assured me he will investigate. God I hope Nut gets some help, but I have done all I could to get him some help, and to protect myself and innocent bystanders by warning the school. I AM DONE. HE IS NUKED. Best to you all. Honestly I never wanted to hurt him and only hope that he gets some help, so now I have some guilt for hurting him. But I know there is nothing else I could have done to help him and I did warn him to leave me alone or I would do this. Now to resume my life in full. I never will understand how it went from him loving me so dearly to this nightmare and I just want out. I think the nightmare is over though. But one part of me is still scared since he is still free.